Love is the most beautiful things that could ever happen. But falling down from it is truly inhuman. Everybody is born to give and receive love.

When first time love happens, it looks self-realization happened – high feeling, high emotions, and no words, everything looks like God; but what happens after few weeks or few months, people fall down from it. Fall down because now love has replaced with lot of things.

I suggest few ways to rise in love, so that it could remain as it was – with or without a particular person.

Encourage each other for self growth

Self growth is very important, without self growth any relation may turn sour. Self growth comes in terms of values, character, improved understanding, improved consciousness, etc. Apart from encouraging for self growth, what some people do is they accept the bad habits too, and boast ‘I like the way you are’ well this myth is bound to break later on. More self growth brings more quality and insight in a human and s/he understands the things in more proper ways.

Understand about unconditional love

Love is in-fact unconditional. And if you put conditions to it – it will become something else; can say ‘a dependency, an attachment, an infatuation or a desire to get something’.

Life will become more easy if people accept infatuation as it is, but most of the time everyone says – I’m not infatuated but in love. Then, why it gives pain after a break up? Incomplete infatuations and attachments are bound to give pain.

Find and practice some meditation technique

It will let you know ‘who you are?’ and will explore the real meaning of love. Meditation will not only help you in love but will help you in each and everything. If you don’t know:  ‘who you are?’ I doubt you will love with errors. And if you don’t know: ‘who you are?’ and you see your dreams in other person (that also doesn’t know, who s/he is?), I am sorry! God knows what will happen with you.

Replace attachment with understanding

Most of the time attachments turn in understanding when things are shaken & broken, and attachment starts giving much pain than the need of attachment itself.

Understanding of ‘why I am attached?’, ‘what are the temporary & permanent reasons behind it?’, ‘are the things in my control?’, ‘what I’m going to gain & loose?’ helps a lot.

Replace dependency with freedom

The emotional dependency is disastrous, it gives lot of traumas. And it comes when self-growth is little. Emotions are wonderful but un-understood emotions are like shooting a Gun backwards. Freedom comes when emotions are well understood, balanced and factual.

Find out the truth of relation

The invisible part of a person is more real than the visible part. Always try to understand what is behind appearances. Words and situations can be manipulated, but invisible part always remains real. The truth of any relation makes it more sustainable. Find the truth and work on it.

Be in love with everything

Love, doesn’t discriminate. Love, doesn’t evaluate. Love, doesn’t come and go. It is and it will be. Be in love with your work, with your profession. With each and everything you are associated with and they will become divine.