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So, we don’t know “how to be friends naturally?” Good! Actually, people also forget how to take breath naturally? We are forgetting lot of things day-by-day, but we need fast miracles, perfect people and fast results – without upgrading our mind. Yet, there are flood of books for mind-power – again, claim for some miracle in life. But, you don’t worry; you’ll learn “how to be a girlfriend as fast as possible?”

This phrase “how to be a girl friend,” and nearby words is searched almost 100K times per month in Google search engine (today statistics); so you are not special one – looking for it. Lot of people are searching the same.

It makes sense that a girl (if friend) is girl friend, and a boy (obviously friend) is boyfriend; actually real friendship never evaluates gender in friendship. Unless you have some physical or emotional or monetarily needs or expecting some favor which is impossible otherwise. Or, maybe you expect other to be a future husband or wife … whatever; I can’t think much on your behalf.

Manipulative friendship is destructive; there are people who want friendship just for their own means. If I give it words, it is “commercial friendship” with one side of trade, and often is successful in short-run with full of glib and sycophancy, but collapse in longer run so disastrously – it never leaves a single ray of hope to revive again.

To be a just “girl friend” is “too” easy; you can find anyone to spoil your life anyway you want – I mean it! All kind of sweet, sour and poisonous people are available anywhere. I’m not writing this article to make you jump in nonsense; I want you to reconsider term “friendship” rather than just be a “girlfriend.”

Gender based discrimination in friendship will make you cry; like you can find people saying, “She is my girlfriend and I’ll kill you if you meet her,” Or, he is just my boyfriend, “How dare you talk to him?” Most of the fights in colleges/offices happen due to this. If anybody wants to be just a “girl friend,” or “boy friend,” please eliminate the name of “friend” from that. Better to have a girl or boy to use or misuse. Don’t spoil friendship for the sake of something else, a friend is beyond gender.

And, the name ex-girl friend, or ex-boy friend – looks too terrible; like ex-husband and ex-wife. I want you to think consciously about this. Just be a friend, leaving out the tag of “girl friend” and “boyfriend” and you’ll be freer without any emotional setbacks & unnecessary complexities in life. Though, everyone needs best friend; I’d say don’t make special one – make several, be in plenty, but be a “friend” only.