Photo: Giovanni Baglione

Here, there is two colors: one is visible, that is known by sayings “I love you, I can’t live without you, You’re my life, etc.,” and doing some visible stuffs, i.e., a hug, few gifts, serving and caring for something, etc. The second love is invisible, though the words are harsh, actions are hurting but they all are governed by the deep love inside, though hard to recognize at a given moment, but later in life that invisible love clears everything.

As I see, the most of the people are driven by the first kind of love, the visible love – as soon as the visibility is gone, the love is gone. Then another partner and another love, and the same thing again.

When we see any fault in our partner, we want to remove him or her from our life, rather wait and help that person to grow and become a far more better person, perhaps we don’t want to grow in ourselves, unless we grow how can be expect our partner to be grown? Or we ever need the person of our “dream,” and in-turn that person expect us to be the “person of his or her dream,” we terribly fail here – when we see perfection everywhere overlooking our own imperfections. It is OK, that life is not about making compromise with imperfections of the other person and to suffer the whole life, but it is not OK to leave other person for his or her imperfections. Play the hard love! The invisible love. Do things to put that person on track. This is not easy to tell how to do things exactly, but under controlled conditions play your role very hard, positively. That with each stroke, that person starts shifting from “this” to “that, where you want his or her life should be,” not as per your fancies of the mind but as per it is ethically correct. It is also possible that the person whom with you are playing hard love, may leave you – but he or she will ever appreciate you that you made his or her life. And it is also possible if he or she has little intelligence, to fall back in your open arms. Whatever the case, you will feel proud of you, as you have been the real lover, you ever wanted good of that person in every way, whether he or she is with you or not.