It is true in your heart and in my heart – without a beautiful relationship, life doesn’t look worth celebrating. Life is all about expression, loving, caring, sharing and enjoying … and with beautiful people these things go in hundred-folds. Though life also gives us lessons by creating things and situations – we never want, but all go easy if relations are good, and particular a relation with our soul-mate, the life partner.

What is a relationship?

There are kinds of relationships and each one is scored differently: in business relationship, the money matters; in personal relationship, emotions matter; in relationship with a neighbor, ethics matter; with closed friend, trust matters. So each relationship has number of bonding factors, which connect two poles or say two people. Here, for convenient sake I just took one factor. Hope, you have understood it well, but more than any bonding factor, the most crucial thing is “Dharma,” which we will talk about later on in this post.

What is divorce ?

Divorce is absence of Dharma, I’d say. But these days Divorce is just derived by “The law of utility,” which says,”If you are not useful to me or I’m not useful to you, anyone can kick-off the other – who likes the unusable things?” This “The law of utility,” is only good when a relationship is just made for “use and throw” purpose whether physically or economically.

What is Dharma?

In this context, the Dharma is a connecting strings which connect one to another, “truly,” “honestly,” “clearly,” “faithfully,” and it has certain duties and responsibilities – irrespective to how the other person behaves, Dharma is independent. But for different relationships, the ingredients of Dharma differ, as each relationship is based on different aspects but identical in its own way. For instance, husband’s Dharma and friend’s Dharma, both are different. But the husband’s Dharma is identical to all the husbands and the friend’s Dharma is identical to all the friends. Same way, a wife’s Dharma is identical to all the wives of the world.

The Problem

When a husband forgets ‘what is a husband’s Dharma,’ and a wife forgets ‘what is a wife’s Dharma,” instead, they start applying “The law of utility,” and start creating a gap for permanently kick-off and cut-off the other. This is what happening in this world, everywhere.

What is a beautiful relationship?

When a relationship is based on “Dharma,” it is a beautiful relationship. The Dharma protects, guides, gives satisfaction and tells,” You are on the right path, you do not need to fear anybody; where there is Dharma, there is God.” And, Dharma applies in all the relationships whether they are parents, life-partners, business people, friends, neighbors or politicians etc. “Dharma,” is the root of everything, if it is weak – no relationship can neither survive long-last nor can give a sense of fulfillment.

Your home work

Whether you are a husband or a wife, or a friend of someone. Try to write down what is your “Dharma” for that particular relationship. If you and your partner, both are able to understand this “Dharma,” I guarantee you, your relationship will become beautiful, or more beautiful, without going away to each other.