“Michelangelo did some of his best painting when past 80; Goethe wrote Faust when past 80; Edison was still inventing at 90; Picasso, past 85, dominates the art word today; Wright at 90 was still considered the most creative architect; Shaw was still writing at 90; Grandma Moses began painting at 79, etc., etc.” — Psycho Cybernetics, Maxwell Maltz
Everyone truly wants to be immortal and secondly at least a longer life; God doesn’t give the first but grants the second on certain terms, fulfill His terms and snatch more years and add them to your life. The terms are simple, it is to make yourself happy, when you are happy your body secretes happy hormones, fuels power to its organs and you get wholesome vitality.
Friday is good and Monday is bad — just because people don’t enjoy what they do. Sometimes work is OK but office people are bad, or vice-versa. Thing is to, increase happy hours in your life, do something which makes you truly happy, people change like a season, so better to find your happiness in something else, in some kind of work.
God was alone, for His happiness He created the world. All the creators imitate the God, and you too can, God also made you in His own image, you can create lots of things and find happiness in them. This is the secret we take from God to be a creative person. And it is not for any kind of reward or popularity, it is just for happiness. With hope of reward or loss the creativity gets killed, same way God doesn’t need any reward from anyone for His creation, He is just happy in that. For humans rewards and popularity follow in a great deal sometimes but that’s not only the point to be creative.
To be creative means to be happy, to become timeless, completely lost in creation forgetting ups and downs of life; work itself becomes kind of meditation, devotion … it pulls you in itself, takes your hundred percent awareness and you feel expanded with it, and feel like you are just the medium and God’s grace is just working through you and for you, and you are getting a shower of life force energy.
Let’s dive in:
# Wake up in every morning as it is the new beginning of your life.
# Play, play like a child.
# Breathe more, tummy out and in.
# Exercise, enhance the power of your muscles.
# Meditate, enhance the power of your psyche.
# Massage and scrub your body, help it radiate and glow.
# Swim, swim like a fish.
# Feelings, give words to feelings and express ‘em.
# Fly, even if you can’t, imagine, imagine flying high in the blue sky.
# Rain, dance in rain.
# Love as it is only thing to do.
# Eat more but don’t overload, eat less but don’t remain hungry.
# Self image, enhance it by the power of positive thinking.
# Empathy, feel ‘em as they are part and parcel of your own.
# Dream, as they are truer than reality.
# Sleep, sleep like as you have no mind.
# [......] add everything that helps soothing your life.
On Valentine days many things happen, few uncommon things that happen in gross and subtle ways are worth considering.
# The gifts and restaurant
If a girl pays the bills and rejects the gifts she owes nothing to a man, but if a man pays the bills and pays lavishly even to waiter — the girl owes something to a man. The smart girls who never want to be get hooked pay at least 50% bill or the whole, and ever ask the reason for such an expensive gift and then reject it.
# Commitments and breach
To win some favor the number of commitments increase, when the favor is over then the commitments start breaching. Commitment and breach — this is the cycle. We respect commitment so easily start believing ‘em, once the commitment is breached and we get used, then we start giving our own reason why did we believe on him or her?
# Only yes
If someone says only yes to you. What can you possibly do? You release your armors of defense. That’s it he or she was wanted. Now you are asked for a favor, first small favor then big favor — you are hooked and used.
# Professional ways of proposing
He wants someone to be his girlfriend, he is well educated, well built and long. In a day he proposed 10 unknown or somewhat known girls, they refused. Next day he proposed more and kept his business for many days. In re-cycling he started proposing the girls who had refused but kept him in mind. And he believed at least 2 or 3 girls would accept the proposal, and if only one accepted, he won the game. This is the strategy anyone can use. But hooking and crooking is not love. Beware!
# Parents resist
But their son or daughter thinks they are taking their freedom and start going more closer to that person which is not worth of them.
# Others uncommon things
Passion disables the rational mind. Risk taking attitude. Sale of contraceptives increase. Flowers and perfume everywhere. Dry Cleaners get more clothes Salesperson sale more clothes. Scarce products as gifts are in demand, and romantic novels, movies and quotes too. Use of spy camera (for future blackmailing). And emotional hijacking.
# Love has no reasons and all reasons for love
But if we could find out a true reason why we love someone or why someone loves us. Love will be easier. A girl left a man ‘coz another looked superior in position. She loved the earlier man but loved only the position of another man. She craved for earlier man but lived with another man. If we go in her mind she disregarded the potential of earlier man that he could stand up in a position too, and disregarded another man that he could love her like a mad too.
In the beginning there was nothing, I saw water everywhere, what was there only Shakti, a feminine deity we call Devi. Once this Devi thought of creation so she materialized a man and asked him to create a world with her, this man answered that she was mother like (‘coz she had produced him) and it was impossible to grant her wish — this man turned Brahma. Unsatisfied Devi materialized another man and repeated the same wish, this man also refused, and turned as Vishnu. Yet again Devi materialized a man and asked him to create a world with her, this man agreed and turned as Shiv (Shankar) and also known as Ardhnarishwar (some people believe that Shivlinga is mix of Shiva and Shakti). I saw this story in a T.V serial, and was much shocked regarding the third man and Devi herself. No doubt we know that Brahma is Satvik, Vishnu is Rajasik and Shankar is Tamasic — Gods. Also a pandit told me similar but a bit different story.
He told me in few words that Shankar and Devis (Durga, Kali, Baglamukhi, etc.) are Tamasic God and Goddesses; whereas Vishnu (Ram) and Hanuman are Satvik Gods. That’s it. Aghoris who eat and drink everything, remain without clothes and wear the ashes of the dead and expert in Tantra (Vashikaran, Maran, Mohan, Stambhan, Videshan etc.) for them their lord is one and one only Shankar. Devi Baglamukhi is also a Goddess of Tantra; Kali, Durga and others are the variation of one Devi only. To protect or to remove the tantrik attacks or to win over enemies, people often worship Goddess Baglamukhi or Kali in a specified way. In many places people still sacrifice animals for Devis. The energy that is released from a bleeding animal may be used for some energy manipulation purpose. Not that pandit but an old man told me, to stop animal sacrifice, few people prayed Devi to take Nariyal sacrifice instead, since then Nariyal is offered to Devi. There are lot more stories, let’s leave them. Since my childhood I worshipped Shiva and Devi Durga as Satvik God and Goddess, and many people believe the same. But stories are stories and a matter of a great research work, we shouldn’t reject anything just ‘coz we disbelieve it. I still wonder how can a competent Aghori change a rotten meat into rasgullas, how is he able to change the molecular structure?
ISKON, where devotees of lord Krishna (Vishnu) are just vegetarian, few I know even don’t take tea and coffee, they say that they can’t eat which they can’t offer to their God, so they also don’t eat smelly stuff like garlic and onion. Same is true for Hanuman, God in Himself, He is the devotee of Rama. Not to be confused, Rama and Krishna are other names of Vishnu. If one goes to famous Hanuman Temple like Mehandipur Balaji and others, it is advised to practice purity one month or forty or forty one days before and after visiting the temple. Hanuman dislikes which His lord Rama dislikes.
There is wide difference between Satvik and Tamasic. Let’s have some understanding, animals, birds and reptiles, insects and other bugs live alternate in sleep and wakeful state. Human being live alternate in sleep, dream and wakeful state (and some wise also go beyond these three state, they reach to Turiya or Turiyatita state, read Bhagavad Gita or Upanishads to know the state of a wise). Ghosts, spirits and so like live only in wakeful state. And vegetables live only in sleep state, they have life and prana as we have, they feel pain and pleasure, when we crush them under our teeth and call ourselves vegetarian — we actually are sucking their prana and getting vitality in our body and mind. We kill a life that doesn’t bleed and named as meat and fulfill our own destiny. Even the air we breathe and water we drink, it has tiny-tiny micro creatures in it some are good to our health and some not. Without air, water and vegetables we can’t survive. But what makes vegetarian superior to non-vegetarian in health and mind is what healers, energy experts and nutritionists talk about….
They say the energy of meat is not good, its aura is of grayish color — not good for health. That’s the one point. Second is, red meat provokes anger and unnecessary excitement, so they tell to switch to white meat. Others also say that pain and diseases of animals comes in their meat, well vegetables also feel pain (check some researches that scientists did on pain and pleasure) and pleasure, and also have diseases in them if grown in unhealthy atmosphere. It is long before said that if you want your vegetables to grow healthier and faster go everyday to them, touch them and feel them for some time, they will respond their love via their growth and vitality. The fresh vegetables and food made of them have good energy (prana) and so good for health, but the food that is kept for several hours and eaten later on is not good for health, according Bhagavad Gita it comes under Tamasic food, ‘coz it has lost its energy that was good for health. Even our refrigerators that maintain the shines of our vegetables actually consistently decreasing the level of prana in them: one apple a day eaten from refrigerator may not keep a doctor away. We shall find out the natural ways to preserve our foods.
From the energy point of view, the vegetarian food is Tamasic if not taken properly, it will adversely hit the health. For vegetarian food to be good for health, it should be eaten fresh and preserve naturally. The packaged food and recipes have all the taste and fun in them but no prana that we need for a long and healthy life. Earlier people lived a long life ‘coz they ate the food which was full of prana, they consistently took the energy which had positivity and vitality, they used to pluck the fruits directly from the tree and cooked food which they were needed just for that particular time.
Tamasic and Satvik is just the matter of kinds of energy in them, in both types of food the life is killed. The positive energy is good for health and negative energy is good for disease. Some believe there are 84 lakhs Yonis, and in them a soul takes birth, a man can be born as a dog in next life and a rat or some bug in yet another life, even can take birth as a tree; the karmic blueprints rotate a soul in 84 lakhs Yonis. This is important thing that people who disbelieve in 84 lakhs Yonis, feel psychologically free to kill an animal they think that they will never take birth as an animal. However eating or not eating non-veg, or sacrificing them to some deity is also a matter of personal taste irrespective to 84 lakhs. Vegetables have life in them as we have and animals have — and everyone feels the pain and pleasure. I think it is better to distinguish Tamasic and Satvik from negative and positive energy point of view.
Firm faith, solid trust and total surrender, they are the nice phrases. Without them life is incomplete, every spiritual guru talks about them. But what happened in Jonestown incident where around 900 people took poison and collapsed to death at the command of their leader, what kind of faith it was. Isn’t it that most of us lack faith literacy? When we have faith in someone or something we are ready to die for that, if not poison of cup, we are ready to give our hard earned money and precious time to any person or spiritual guru who has earned our faith.
By nature we seek faith, in childhood first day when our parents leave us in school we have faith that they will take us back. When we sleep at night we have faith that we will get up alive. When we ride our favorite vehicle we have faith that it will function well. These are modes of auto generated faith. They are not forced, they are not told, and they do not bind our lives. This attitude of ours leads us to having faith in everything. We want our lovers, friends, parents, teachers and even animals faithful to us, and we to each of them. We want to live in faith and die in faith.
A girl when faiths in love gives her body and emotions to that person, even not behind sacrificing her career and interests, for her faith in love is the highest reward. A man when faiths in a guru he is ready to leave his relations, donate his money and serve the guru, for him spiritual path is the highest reward. But when we are robbed and manipulated by the person to whom we’ve given everything, of course we become the victim, having all lost, cheated at all levels — we realize faith brings terrible consequences.
Burnt! The victim is suffered by low wit and proudly nonsense people. Their mood decides when to punish and when to reward, no matter what a victim does: rewarded for bad behavior and punished for good behavior, and vice-versa. The victim looks at sky but uncertain when clouds pour rain or fire, and lives in chaos, distrust and frustration.
Wounded. The victim is wounded to all the degrees: emotional wounds and mental pain, make the life as the hell is shown in our scriptures. It’s like an animal who knows that it can be slaughtered at any time, and horror feelings of imagination kill in every passing second.
Rescue. Rescue is impossible.
“Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts….” Kahlil Gibran
When a child is burnt, aka, rewarded or punished for same kind of behavior, many things happen:
“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” — Antoine De Saint-Exupery, The Little Prince
A burnt spouse is a cursing machine, ever pondering to break the relationship and to start a new life, the dream of a perfect spouse is just broken, life finished. If spouse is dependent the cursing goes in manifolds. And ultimately the hammer strikes on the children’s head, if parents are unhappy, children can understand everything. A burnt spouse has following symptoms:
“What gets measured, gets managed.” — Peter Drucker
When system is not structured, steps of work-flow is not properly defined, seniors play office politics — an employee who gives his or her life to that organization suffers this Syndrome. He or she is unable to use his or her potential, doesn’t know what makes the seniors happy or unhappy,when an employee has limited skills to get a new job this fire burns intensely. The feeling and thinking are like this:
But incase of child there is no rescue but to depend on the elders. See, here I don’t like using the word “parents” as producing child doesn’t make anybody a parent, animals can do it, being parent is to have the parent’s characteristics: values, love and understanding. To rescue a child from this Syndrome is to take a stick and beat the elders until they understand what “parents” word means.
I believe every adult should have sufficient skills to be economically and emotionally independent. Being dependent on somebody 100% produces the effect of 100% blankness in our lives that produce insecurity and fear, and psychosomatic problems. What happens when a housewife is economically dependent on her husband, and somehow if her husband dies (god forbid me), or is struck by some chronic disease, or somehow turns mad and bites her. Initially people think in a relationship that they are 100% devoted and dedicated and everything will go fine as were few days in the beginning — this positive thinking has flaws, as time changes things change. One should constantly feed oneself to have skills in hands and knowledge in mind, learning, experimenting and honing. It’s more fun in learning when one is free at home. One is manipulated and tortured ‘coz one is dependent on somebody. “A man can’t ride your back unless it’s bent,” Martin Luther King, Jr.
As organisations thrive on learning, a job is also thrives on learning. A person who thinks, limited skills and a degree are enough to do a job, he or she is making fool of himself or herself. If you have skills more than your boss then why can’t you surpass them, maybe your skills get recognized in next few companies and you get the deserving positing one try after the other. And good things is with more skills and great knowledge, an employee can start his or her own business. Difference that exist in being an employee and being an entrepreneur is the level of knowledge in our heads.
A caterpillar codes its cells memory with future butterfly blueprints, the cells start changing, the changed cells are called imaginal cells, and soon with changed cells a butterfly comes in existence.
A baby-lion who lives among sheep becomes a sheep, he mirrors each and every sheep and thinks he is just that. He is helpless by his mirror-neurons, his brain fires neurons and conditions him to live as a sheep. It is only when he comes in lions’ company, mirror-neurons now mirror lions to him and he becomes a lion.
Both the imaginal cells and mirror-neurons are the keys to make our dreams come true: the ICs provide metamorphosis of our emotional and psychological values, and the MNs help us to seek those people who have already achieved the same kind of dreams that we want to get, ‘coz MNs are bound to mirror those people.
V = N square
(v denotes value, and n denotes number; eg., if n=2 then v=4, if n=3 then v=9, if n=4 then v=16, and so forth.)
So power of networking goes with rocket speed, making more clear, 2 people can communicate next 2 people in 4 different ways, and 3 people can communicate next three people in 9 different ways; so every-time n increases the value of v goes square of that. And that is the reason why network marketing (MLM: Multi Level Marketing) is so successful.
In India people who repair shoes are called Mochi, and their business is not profitable, they hardly earn money, ‘coz they work as one man army sitting under a tree or in some corner of a market. Due to lack of customers some Mochi frequently travel at railway platform and bus-stand, in a hope someone will give them a chance to serve them.
The fact is everyone wants clean and repaired shoes but they don’t have time to go to a Mochi, even if they go, Mochi just repairs the shoes, if they are leather ones they are polished on the outside but still unclean and smelly inside, along with the laces.
What about when someone starts the service of cleaning and repairing the shoes, and send them back scented and shining to the owner. What do you think, how much can this business turn profitable?
Meet Sandeep Gajakas and his Shoe Laundry service, an example how can micro-business turn in macro-business: employs numbers of people, opens franchisee centers and so many things. He destroyed the idea of low status job (Mochis are looked down in India) that hardly gives money to eat bread, he first learned everything then created a system to make others work for him. When it is said, “no job is small,” it is rightly said; with high demand and great service and millions in pocket, every job is big.
When few days are left to exam, they read day and night, allocating time for each chapter and their revision and side by side buying more books and collecting more notes, in few days they read that much they haven’t read in entire year. I’m talking about those people who just read during exam time, if not good marks, they manage to pass the exam. So why those days become so productive, yes that is emergency to save a career; apart from those days, what they did just waste of time. In other words one year course that a university offers could be completed in 3 months, and two years course in 6 months; this time is more than quick-fix exam emergency and lesser than university’s standard time. The point is what is urgent and planned is done quickly and what is not urgent and unplanned it grows in complexity, inefficiency and wastage of resources as the time goes by.
“Work expands to fill the time available for its completion,” Parkinson’s Law. The thing is to recognize the least amount of time to do anything efficiently, if you can’t recognize the least amount of time, make it urgent, ring the bells of emergency, raise hairs and stand on toes — and then see what happens.