As flower has its quality of giving smell, irrespective what you do with it — even you crush it under the heel of your foot, it doesn’t leave giving smell. Like this way, the love is a quality, independent to its object, whether the object is good or bad, the quality doesn’t change.

If someone thinks to love someone and side by side to hate someone, then, would it be love? Or, is love the favorable exchange of emotions, thoughts and sexuality? When they are favorable then it is love, otherwise hate or worse!

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Here, there is two colors: one is visible, that is known by sayings “I love you, I can’t live without you, You’re my life, etc.,” and doing some visible stuffs, i.e., a hug, few gifts, serving and caring for something, etc. The second love is invisible, though the words are harsh, actions are hurting but they all are governed by the deep love inside, though hard to recognize at a given moment, but later in life that invisible love clears everything.

As I see, the most of the people are driven by the first kind of love, the visible love – as soon as the visibility is gone, the love is gone. Then another partner and another love, and the same thing again.

When we see any fault in our partner, we want to remove him or her from our life, rather wait and help that person to grow and become a far more better person, perhaps we don’t want to grow in ourselves, unless we grow how can be expect our partner to be grown? Or we ever need the person of our “dream,” and in-turn that person expect us to be the “person of his or her dream,” we terribly fail here – when we see perfection everywhere overlooking our own imperfections. It is OK, that life is not about making compromise with imperfections of the other person and to suffer the whole life, but it is not OK to leave other person for his or her imperfections. Play the hard love! The invisible love. Do things to put that person on track. This is not easy to tell how to do things exactly, but under controlled conditions play your role very hard, positively. That with each stroke, that person starts shifting from “this” to “that, where you want his or her life should be,” not as per your fancies of the mind but as per it is ethically correct. It is also possible that the person whom with you are playing hard love, may leave you – but he or she will ever appreciate you that you made his or her life. And it is also possible if he or she has little intelligence, to fall back in your open arms. Whatever the case, you will feel proud of you, as you have been the real lover, you ever wanted good of that person in every way, whether he or she is with you or not.

Believe it or not! It is. I’m affirming again “In your world and my world the love is only the law.”  The rest are just the complications for this or that, for good or bad … and for push and pull.

This law doesn’t generate from the mind, it is only the law which mind doesn’t make — rest it does. This is beauty of this law, which comes from the being, where everything is just perfect, with all the contentment and satisfaction.

As soon as two people start liking each other, fall in love, two hearts and minds become one. Both the lovers start living with double consciousness, and they feel more energetic. A shift from single consciousness to double conciousness gives awesome pleasure to each one of them.

But when due to some unsolved issues, this double consciousness starts leaking and turns in single consciousness. A person feels no more satisfied with his lover and break up takes place.

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One life is expressing in all the lives, everywhere is just you: in plants, in animals, in rivers, in stars … in friends, in foes … everywhere. This is bigger picture (though you have conscious control over yourself only) where you exist in all the expansion. If you love other, you love yourself; if you hate other, you hate yourself; you fear other, you fear yourself … everywhere is you only. There is nothing to forgive but everything to love.

When people hurt you and you cry with shaken heart … and with plenty of tear, take a bow, never to forgive them. But, you forget, that you have contracted with those people prior to your birth, for that type of their behavior, because you wished to gain some insight, you wished to learn some lesson … and mutually contract was made. Nothing happens just by an accident, you decide everything, each detail of your life … you cry, because you forget your contract, and curse the people of your contract. But, they are helping you out (even they also forget it); the moment you gain insight and learn the lesson – the contract is over and leave you with weakness turned strength.

Try to feel, if the above two paragraphs raise your vibrations or not, you feel good or not. Though, the logic mind makes lot of questions, and often rejects also what helps to make it feel good and relieved. No one can prove for you: “one life is expressing in all the lives,” and “you make contract prior to your birth,” but the Sages who have reached the higher level of consciousness, say this. The only “rule of thumb” is, believe it if it is life-enhancing and raises your vibrations, and reject it if it doesn’t raise your vibrations.

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Love needs no condition, so looks no virtue, no ethics and no character. So, it’s easy to fall in love with any one, any time. Call it conditional or unconditional, whatever you like. But, marriage needs virtues, ethics and character; it’s not mere foundation to fulfill physical, emotional and monetarily needs – but, it is more than that.

Love, marriage and disharmony simply show the factors of marriage are missing, from either of side or from both. People often say: one needs two hands to clap; fight isn’t possible from one side, but they forget that hammer also has one side strike, and it strikes ruthlessly.

Marriage, harmony and love show factors of marriage are fulfilled, both the partners understand each other more than emotional, physical and monetarily needs, and everlasting love takes place.

Virtues, ethics and character play a crucial role not only making an individual life but to make any kind of relationship. Isn’t it?

Just a couple of months ago, I got a mail mentioning "I’m a girl of certain age, doing so and so and I don’t have a boyfriend," the girl was sad, even boys can also be sad at times. And I was just wondering, if there would be any formula or technique which might give 100 %( sure) results, then, a man would be having many girls at a time and same would be for girls. The mantra like KLEEM helps in attracting, but there is no "fixed calculation" if you chant it, say, 10K or 50K times you are bound to have a man or woman, or some material object you desire for.

If you know the history of Ramayana, a Hindu epic, where a person, named Ravan kidnapped the wife of Ram, and tried to attract and allure her for a number of years having her in some part of his kingdom. But, he couldn’t attract her. I’m not saying that every man or woman is Ravan and can’t attract to other person. I mean to say deliberate attraction brings manipulations (…and that turns in hate and distances, most of the times), each one of us need to like a flower which never tries to attract anybody, but people are drawn to that.

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You need not to please any person for this. If this would happen, all the good people would have become “mad” in pleasing bad people (who always look for it).

Some people touch our heart, but we never explicitly say it, we know within. And those people do nothing to make us happy, they are on their path… but, they touch our heart. The reasons are below, the same reason (that I found) if we apply in our lives, we can also touch the heart of other people.

Reframing & transformation

Re-frame means to re-build again to any talk or to any thought or to any idea in a way that it looks constructive and leaves positive impact on others. And, some people are so expert in re-framing, you get soothing and healing effects from them. This is an art, grows when we have knowledge and understanding to see things from wider perspectives. When, something is reframed, transformation in others is provoked.

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Below are some quotes on God & Spirituality, hope you will enjoy them.

“I don’t try to imagine a God; it suffices to stand in awe of the structure of the world, insofar as it allows our inadequate senses to appreciate it” – Albert Einstein

“God grant me the courage not to give up what I think is right even though I think it is hopeless.” -  Chester W. Nimitz

“Any fool can count the seeds in an apple.  Only God can count all the apples in one seed.” – Robert H. Schuller

“I am convinced that He (God) does not play dice.” – Albert Einstein

“God loves each of us as if there were only one of us.”  – St. Augustine Read More »

Image by: Katiuscia Cortesi(licence)

“I love you,” may be, well understood to you (I can’t say). “Love” is the most powerful word of any dictionary; when, unexpectedly someone says “I Love You” – other falls flat. It’s not due to someone; it’s just due to phrase itself. And an err… Err of finding love in other. It can’t be sought; it’s more like an autonomous breath or heart-beats. It can’t be controlled and directed, it’s multi-dimensional – floating to each side. Read More »