Posts Tagged ‘Self Improvement’
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Eating ice-creams and lying on ice-bed is not a good option. Damn cool also doesn’t mean a tube-light which never starts, damn cool means just damn cool! Here are tips:
Erase the old, dive into now: the power is just in “now,” who can know more than Echart Tolle, he has a book, “The power of now,” he is correct … too correct!
Reply with smile (with clean teeth): clean teeth decorate the smile, but a smile with warm heart makes all the difference.
Laugh on self generated mistakes: mistakes are part of learning process, great runner often falls, it’s Okay!
Learn anything with fun: fun brings more energy, wipes out rut and enlivens everything.
Play like kids: with the inner child, it needs your attention … give it everything it wants, then it will make your life contented. The people who have insecure and unentertained inner child often spoil the relationships.
Laugh like mad: if you don’t know how to laugh, watch this video on YouTube (link), you’ll start laughing right now.
Dance like … (as you like): for God sake don’t make your dance an exercise, 1,2,3 with steps; let it be free style, as your soul needs it.
Hug like monkey baby: watch them, this is beautiful.
Listen through heart: mind doesn’t listen, it only records the information; heart can only listen.
Focus on solution: whatever you focus upon, it strengthens. So, better to just focus on solution not to the problem.
Distribute love: this is expensive treasure you have, it always returns in many folds. More you give it, more you have.
Cry alone : we cry when we are failed to gain insight from our experiences, and then sudden outburst of emotions come; so, it’s good to be alone while crying, and later on working on insights which have been left unyielded.
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How about if you get a key … when you smell a flower, you become like that, carrying its softness, freshness, and fragrance within … when you hug a tree, you feel your roots are going down and down and you are up in the sky … when you play with kids, you live innocence with a heart wide open … when you see any person, a friend or a foe, you appreciate your diversity … when you see sky, you become sky … when you see mountains, rivers and birds, you become like them.
How about if you get a key … that dissolves your dysfunctionality and limited mind, that sets you free from rooted beliefs and ends all separations … that makes you the real you … and that makes your heart happy.
Here is the key: It is the key to understand, one life is expressing everywhere. Everywhere!
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Both are negative, inferiority and ego. You have seen people attaching to other by keeping themselves inferior, applicable in the case of … (you can adjust any scene if you remember).
The real game starts
When one’s inferiority driven behavior like putting oneself down, unnecessary nodding, the sycophancy … and saying “yes” to virtually anything, with all sorts of verbal and non-verbal support – starts feeding other person’s “ego.” And, now “ego” needs its food.
Most of the people live in ego consciousness, and the best way to attach with them is by feeding their “ego.” it’s easy! But the whole game is superficial, though it pleases to the mind but not to the heart.
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Love needs no condition, so looks no virtue, no ethics and no character. So, it’s easy to fall in love with any one, any time. Call it conditional or unconditional, whatever you like. But, marriage needs virtues, ethics and character; it’s not mere foundation to fulfill physical, emotional and monetarily needs – but, it is more than that.
Love, marriage and disharmony simply show the factors of marriage are missing, from either of side or from both. People often say: one needs two hands to clap; fight isn’t possible from one side, but they forget that hammer also has one side strike, and it strikes ruthlessly.
Marriage, harmony and love show factors of marriage are fulfilled, both the partners understand each other more than emotional, physical and monetarily needs, and everlasting love takes place.
Virtues, ethics and character play a crucial role not only making an individual life but to make any kind of relationship. Isn’t it?
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You throw them, they come again; you give them to someone, they bounce back. The more you think about them, more they stick with you. And, your promises and affirmations to yourself go waste. You lose!
Your identification with the limitations and weaknesses is the problem. Actually, they never existed. You believed in some illusion and a Ghost appeared in front of you.
Whatever you can objectify, it isn’t you. Guru repeats, “Whatever you can objectify, it isn’t you.” The moment you objectify your limitations and weaknesses, they become separate from you. Now, you just need to think about this separation; that’s all. The game is finished! Don’t stress about your limitations and weakness, just widen this separation. Remember, you are not that; only thing happened was just – you forgot the separation. Widen the separation and enjoy your real essence. They moment you will separate them, they will disappear.
This Lion is your mind; if it is uncontrolled — it rides over you and makes you suffer. The Devi is the energy, which controls the mind, when this energy isn’t taken care of, the Lion starts riding over you.
When Devi, this energy, is strong it tames the Lion and uses it. The weapons in the Devi’s hand show the awareness and the demons she kills are the thoughts; whenever the thoughts arise, with the awareness, Devi kills the thoughts.
The Devi, this energy is none other than the power which drives your mind and body, which is the source of everything; which takes care of you while you are in dreaming, sleeping or in wakeful state. Serve this Devi well, if you want to take control of your thoughts; otherwise, Lion is capable to make much havoc.
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Indeed, you have lot of responsibilities and work, but you can’t kill you inner child this way. No matter how much mature and older you are – your inner child never grows, he never learns the complexities of the world. He is ever looking at you…
Is there any problem to become like children for some time, maybe for 2-3 hours in the evening, not remembering what happened in office, relations and in this world? If you have forgotten your inner child, who wants to blossom again – you can have a look of the following points to know what children do to live life happily and tension free.
- Children laugh with heart.
- Children cry with heart.
- There is no special friend or foe for them.
- They fight not to hurt.
- They love not to attach.
- They don’t imitate.
- They behave similar everywhere.
- They don’t know any rule and regulation and yet they don’t hurt anyone.
- They can cry if they find someone crying, and they can laugh when they find someone laughing.
We can’t change a person by putting things over his head, and if we do this way, change will become a "torture," and that person will eat you alive. But we can effort to change in easy way, and I don’t think there is any better procedure than that.
Understand a person.
Show the right ways.
Let him choose.
This is the essential requirement for change to understand a person completely, like what he thinks, feels, acts, reacts, make plans and do things; what are his deep and shallow desires and needs – all about him, to the extent it might possible. The thing is, unless we aren’t in tune with a person it is hard to understand him.
There are lots of things to end anxiety, but this time I’m suggesting a simple understanding to end the anxiety.
Whenever you feel anxious, just find a corner, sit there, close your eyes and find out the things which are pulling each-other, means contradicting each other. If things are not in your hand, then you can’t do anything, right! If things are in your hand, maybe, you need some resources or time to end those contradictions which are pulling you apart. But, we assume there are contradictions and nothing can happen in a moment, other than the anxiety.
If you didn’t read the previous article "Mantra & Sadhana to win over enemies," please, read that. This article is sequel of previous one, mainly because, few people told me: they went clueless in terms of "think good," and "feel good" about enemies.
Here are 10 ways, they work as hints to think good and feel good in number of ways: